Men need respect as much as they need air..... because if they don't have it, they pretty much wish they were dead. They go into tread-water mode and lose all incentive and traction when they don't have it. As women, we go into hyper-survival mode, in a sense more practical and pragmatic when these things happen. The men tend to squat on their haunches, look into the distance and fog up as much as possible. If the women are not wise, they will completely take over, bowling their man right over, frustrated and angry at his seeming inactivity. He does the things that are opposite to his recovery. She does precisely the things that cause him to stay in his frozen state. Why should he try to compete with this megawatt woman who is suddenly full of spit and fire, who seems to know exactly what they should do? His manhood gets threatened by everything he can see. He insulates himself by going under water, immersing himself into another world where he can't see the real world or hear the yapping of his wife. He is drowning but he doesn't know it, or maybe he doesn't care.
He needs respect, a lot of it. He needs to know he's still a man, despite the accusations repeating incessantly in his head. He needs good, solid work with his hands.
I see it all around, in this tanked economy, where good men don't have work, where credentials matter more than actual work ethic, where all the rules have changed, where you are rewarded by the government if you just roll over and quit trying.
I don't know the answers to fixing it. If I did, I could write a book and make a million dollars.
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