Sunbeams

I got the last-minute chance to go to the beach last week -- my daughter-in-love was texting me during church, making plans and a packing list. Don't tell Pastor David. Ken rushed me home and I threw a bag together while wolfing down tacos from the drive-through. I hot-wheeled in on over to Newnan and we looked for all the world like the Clampetts, with all kinds of flotsam piled on top. I almost didn't go, because I was coughing like an old stovepipe. But the sea air did my lungs and bum knee a heap of good. It was beautiful to see the dolphins and stingrays flinging themselves out of the surf, the soft sand between our toes, the children jumping pell-mell into the frigid water. Thankfully, the pool was heated, so Yaya jumped on in too. Got burnt toasty while I was at it.

We were staying at the place we took our kids for all of their lives -- Laguna Beach Christian Retreat -- but now it has a fancier name, something to do with Cottages or some such. They've painted all the block buildings with beachy, sherbet colors, but you still have to bring your own pillows and bed linens. We have such happy memories of weeks at the beach, with lots and lots of our family and other friends getting their own cottages at the same time. The kids ganged up and played volleyball, basketball, swam, hunted crabs, got sunburned and hung out with cousins and close friends. It was the best of times. Us adults would visit on our front porch (#7 -- we went so often, we thought it was ours), laugh and drink coffee. When the sun went down and supper was over, we'd congregate with more beverages at the old pool. The bigger boys would have contests where they stacked up chairs and dove over them into the water. We did this for nigh-on two decades. Now my adult children are so tall, they don't fit the full-size beds there (6'6", 6'5" and 6'4". Liz makes me the shortest now, at her 5'10"). They prefer places that have king-size beds. But this son, Jesse, and his family decided to go for a few days anyway, and invited me along. Papa had to work, poor thing. I like these arrangements (not Pa working, just the fact that I got to go). 

While granddaughter Eden (11) and I were riding home together, she said, "Yaya, can I say something? I hope that I don't offend you... I've noticed that Nortons, well, they talk a lot." I love the directness of children. If you don't want to know, don't ask. I reminded her that she was a Norton too and we had a good laugh.  She's the eldest grandchild (of 12) and I'm keenly aware that these days of early childhood are fleeting. Kids get busy with all sorts of things and we have these brief windows where they are still somewhat fascinated by their grandparents. I better tighten up. But then, with the recent death of my father-in-law, I was amazed at the sweet stories that his grandchildren told at the funeral. There's an unconditional love that is truly special. Some people don't get grandchildren, it's just a fact. Check around for a family that might need a surrogate Papa or Yaya. There could be no better investment.   

Crazy World

During our craziest season of life, thick with budding children, homeschooling, lots of relatives and friends and responsibilities....we decided to jump off a cliff and move into an old, leaky camper with our four children onto our land. We were young and idealistic, full of energy and dreams, seeing ourselves as pioneers in a new land. People seem to be doing this a lot these days, but back then we were unique, it seemed. And the campers back then were not as bougie as the fancy ones now. Our only had a sleeper sofa and two single beds in the back. We bought it anyway, even with that many kids. Our boys were 12, 10 and 8, our daughter was 5. The man-sized 12-year-old slept in one of the beds, the 10 and 8 year olds slept together on the other one, and our daughter slept on a pallet on the floor each night. She's now 32, with a husband and two young children (and one on the way) -- I recently asked her if she was traumatized by those two years of sleeping on the floor. She said it was the happiest of times for her, getting to be right in the mix with her crazy-fun brothers, listening to their antics and stories, sleeping right there where she could be a part of it all. That's some relief to me...we had the best of intentions, but after everyone's grown you worry about these things. They certainly learned resilience, how to work hard, and saw first-hand how good things don't just magically appear without someone laboring for them. 

Before we physically moved our camper to our land in south Douglas County, systems had to be put into place: electrical lines, septic system, a water line and some grading. We moved into a kindly-run campground that was right across the street from Six Flags theme park in Atlanta. We learned that many of our neighbors at the campground were long-term campers as we joined the ranks of the homeless. It sounds scary but it really wasn't. I was shocked at how quickly one can adapt to small spaces. Our heater and refrigerator didn't work, but the air conditioner and water heater were first-rate. We adapted with small space heaters and a big cooler (not fun) but if the air and water heater hadn't worked, it would have been a heap-lot harder to do this.

Many eldest children in families tend to think they are co-equals with their parents. They also are usually more obedient and responsible, but not always. This personified our oldest son -- he was (and is) very smart, quirky, and the most inquisitive human I've ever met. He learned very early that he could figure most things out by himself. His Father (my dear husband) also had the attitude that our kids should be allowed to climb 40-foot trees, scale mountains, tunnel into dangerous places, and basically be withheld from nothing that appeared dangerous to their Mother. Many times, my freaking self would be at shrieking level when their Dad would touch my arm and say, "Let 'em go, Rose"... Amazingly, these feral children grew up with lots of opportunities to get wrecked, but they rarely ever got hurt. Ken also expected them to work hard and be his minions, so they learned early how to do things...but when it was play time, the world was their oyster. I'm now grateful for how it went down, now that they're all thriving and able to actually survive as adults. God is good. 

One of my most memorable mornings during those days was when we were still living at the campground. Ken had to get up around 5:00 a.m. to get ready for work each morning, so we'd talk and eat before the kids got up. That day, right after he left, I decided to walk across to the camp showers and clean up real quick. I had done this many times, and the kids welcomed some more time to snooze.  I locked the camper door and proceeded to shower. Before I even turned the water off, I heard a familiar sound driving by the showers. Our conversion van, which had a unique rumble. I thought, "Did Ken have trouble with his truck, so he's come back and is now taking the van?" I quickly dried off and dressed, and ran to the door to see our van driving around the corner, making its way up the hill of the campground road. I looked left, there was no Daddy truck. The camper lights were not on. As the van made its way back down the hill, there is our 12-year-old son scooched up tight to the steering wheel, driving. He jerked to a gravelly stop, rolled down the window and explained why he was taking his life into his own hands: "Hi Mom! I woke up and you weren't in the camper. I didn't know where you were, so I thought I'd search with the van." Though I was imploding internally, I calmly told him to put the van into park. This is the child, who at many times in his life would say things like, when there was general mayhem: "Mom, what are we going to do about these kids?!"  Or -- "Mom, don't you care about Elizabeth's soul? She is getting old (she was 4) and she's not saved yet. What if you have a wreck and she dies and goes to hell?!" This one was born full-grown and full of sauce, and the rules didn't apply to him (still don't). My vision for him, while he was being formed in my womb, all 10 and a half pounds of him, was that he would be a light in the darkness. 

On that particular summer morning, however, he might have just barely squeaked through to live another day...