Eating Close to the Earth

There's a firehose on the news, social media and the bookshelves. It's all about the subject of health. I have an old-but-gold friend who has always said, "Just eat food that's close to how God made it." That's exactly what she has always done. Her house is full of fresh produce and fruit, no sugar or processed junk. I'd stop at the gas station and buy Little Debbies or a Chick-Fil-A Ice Dream (with chocolate syrup) on my way home from her house, because, well because I'm an addict. And sugar is delicious. I'd rather eat such things, sugary and chocolaty, than real food. It's an addiction, as bad as alcoholism. I have had bouts of victory interspersed with years of defeat. People always say, "You just need to be moderate. Eat in moderation!" To that I say you must not know me well, because I came from a long line of hedonists and we don't know what moderation means. For some of my people, that might mean smoking themselves to death or pickling their liver. But for me, one bite of sugary devilment, and I'm off to the races. I watched a sweet friend just last week eating an oatmeal cream pie. She ate half, then folded the plastic around it and said she'd eat that later. What planet is she from?! 

So for this body, I have to abstain from both sugar and bread, if I'm going to have health. Apparently, sugar is almost as bad for your liver as vodka (or at least my liver). Don't feel sorry for me. I've had more than my quota. I've been on the straight and narrow for seven weeks and I am already starting to feel better. Maintaining is key, and I'm placing helps all around, along with plenty of prayer.  

While we're on the subject of "natural eating," who knew that cats, in nature, kill and eat other animals? I thought that cat food only came in giant Walmart bags full of nasty kibble made of who-knows-what. I've had cats my whole life of all shapes and sizes. When our dear dog, Sadie, died this year, I thought adding a second cat would help fill that spot. Matilda, our old 17-year-old cat, loved dogs and humans but despised other cats. So it was not fun around here until she and the newby, Jillie the Jabberwocky, learned to at least tolerate one another. Sadly, Matilda died because of an accident caused by her deafness and blindness. I could not bear it (this is a theme) and got another Pixiebob to pair with Jillie. Enter Atticus, a cream-colored bobtailed lynx-point Pixiebob, shy and sweeter than honey. They fell in love pretty quickly and now I have these two zooming all over the house and sleeping together like a pair of fuzzy mittens. I tell Ken all the time that he should be happy, because even though he hates cats, they sure make his wife happy. 

Back to food... these kittens came to me on a raw diet. Raw. That means recently killed and not cooked. It's a whole day of work for me when I make a giant batch of it. I grind up pounds and pounds of chicken thighs, bones and all, and put organ meats, egg yolks, salmon oil and some supplements in it, then dish it out onto waxed paper in patties and freeze it in ziplock bags. When we put old Matilda on it, she was in heaven. Her terrible shedding ground to an almost-halt and the litter box doesn't smell like a sewer anymore. Who would believe that feeding them what God meant for them to eat would make everything better (except the one day every couple of months that I become a blood-covered butcher)? I'm rolling up my sleeves now, about to embark on said deed. 

My sugar cravings have calmed down, I'm starting to breathe a little better, the cats are salivating, the laundry is done, and Thanksgiving is coming soon. Putting up the tree this week, Lord willing, and thinking about what I'm thankful for. I was mobbed by a pile of grandkids last night at church and thought, wow, everybody told me this would be great. And it is.  

Sowing Love

Back when we were young, early to marriage, I heard a counselor say that it was prudent to deal with issues as they crop up, because those issues become seeds that grow and then sprout and bloom twenty, thirty, fourty years later. In other words, pull up the bad weeds as soon as they poke their heads up. That is easier said than done, but especially when you don't heed the sage advice and the roots grow deep and twisted over time. I am currently helping a divorced couple that we have known for decades to sell their home. They had a pile of kids, a beautiful house, a full life...but the early weeds were never pulled up. Now it's a mess and a tragedy in their "golden years." When the commotion of raising children begins to calm down and the thicket gets mown down, the bad roots show themselves. Can they navigate the rest of their lives, now that everything seems done for?  

I am in the empty nest myself. It was finally, fully manifested about six years ago. It didn't happen overnight...the three sons married 17, 14 and 14 years ago (yes, two of our sons married four weeks apart. FOUR!) All through our 43+ years, Ken has always made it a priority for us to date, so I was acquainted with the man, but nothing prepares you for the day that last one leaves and there's a lot of space between you and him. And the differences between us, the opposite-ness, the things that drew us towards one another back in the dewy days of youth, suddenly become irritating. There are wars of no small nature occurring: The Thermostat Wars, The War of The Minutia, The Battle of The Extrovert vs. The Introvert, The Crusades of Redistributing Housework, and The Who-Has-The-Most-Aches-and-Pains Skirmish. Trivialities can kill a marriage. If we let our world become too small, the lint in the bellybutton can ignite a roaring fire.

Giving thanks is one of the golden keys to staying married. I tell young women who ask me for advice that if they will do this one thing, it can start a transformation in their marriage: as you go about your day, find one thing to praise your husband for. Not a list, just one single, honest thing. It has to be truthful. Then tell him that evening. If I put that one item in my head early in my day, by the time Ken gets home, my attitude has bloomed to glowing. It is human nature to forget the things that put us together, to not remember the better parts of our partner. I keep a picture of my 24-year-old hottie husband taped to the computer on my desk. I remember him, with palpitations. But what matters more are the mountains and storms we have traversed over these years, the ways that we forgive each other along the way (because we are both excellent sinners), the places we have grown, and what we have to be thankful for. The wrinkles, the gray hairs, the chubby parts, the grumpy parts, the difficult years, these are not the things of Hallmark movies...but they are the marks of life ongoing. And love can walk through fire without blinking.